The Daily Struggle of Believing What God Says About Me
We spend so much time waiting to become her—that strong, purpose-filled, faith-walking, boundary-honoring woman we see in our dreams. We tell ourselves we’ll step into that confidence when we’ve achieved more, when we feel ready, when the circumstances align perfectly. But what if we stopped waiting? What if we stopped disqualifying ourselves just because we’re not “there” yet? What if faith invited us to act like her now?
I’m going to be honest with you—I struggle with this every single day. Even as I write these words, there’s a part of me that wants to wait until I feel more qualified to share this message. But that’s exactly the point.
Faith Isn’t a One-Time Decision
“But without faith it is impossible to [walk with God and] please Him, for whoever comes [near] to God must [neccesarily] believe that God exists and that He rewards those who [earnestly and diligently] seek Him” (Hebrews 11:6). The very next verse tells us that Noah “in holy fear built an ark to save his family” (Hebrews 11:7)—he acted on what God told him even though he had never seen rain like that before.
Here’s what I’m learning, sometimes the hard way: faith wasn’t a box I checked many years ago when I got saved. It’s a daily choice. Some days I wake up feeling strong and purpose-filled. Other days? I wallow in doubt. I have to remind myself who God says I am before I even get out of bed.
I keep telling myself that I am a strong, faith-walking, and wealthy entrepreneur. Not because I see all of that manifested yet, but because I believe she exists in God’s plan for my life. Just because I can’t see her completely doesn’t mean she’s not real. But let me tell you, some days that belief feels easier than others.
When Your Inner Voice Fights Against You
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.” (Proverbs 18:21).
I’ve had to learn this truth over and over again because my mouth and my mind don’t always cooperate. I can’t say “I am strong, faith-filled, and wealthy” if I don’t expect to be that person. If what I want and what I expect don’t match, then what I expect will happen. Does that make sense? If I want to be strong and I expect to be weak, then I will be weak. I use my willpower to make myself expect exactly what I want. It sounds easier than it is. It takes willful practice.
This is why I need God desperately. Left to my own thoughts, I’ll talk myself out of every promise He’s given me. I’ll find fifty reasons why that vision He gave me won’t work. I’ll remind myself of every time I’ve failed before.
The way we talk to ourselves—especially as women over 50 who’ve seen enough disappointments to fill a book—makes all the difference. We’ve learned to be “realistic,” which sometimes means we’ve learned to expect less. But faith asks us to expect what God has promised, even when our experience wants to argue.
Living Between the Promise and the Manifestation
Most days, I’m living somewhere between the promise and seeing it fulfilled. That’s where faith does its work. It’s not about pretending my current circumstances don’t exist. It’s about refusing to let them define what’s possible.
When I think about giving up on a dream, I have to remind myself that the woman I’m becoming is already here, just not fully visible yet. In certain situations when I want to stay quiet, I remember that she speaks up. When I want to make decisions based on fear, I ask myself what she would do.
🌟 🌟 PAUSE & REFLECT: This isn’t easy work, is it? Take a moment right now to be honest with yourself. What’s one area where you’re waiting instead of walking in faith? What would change if you started acting like the woman God is calling you to become? You don’t have to have it all figured out—just take the next step.
Faith is the Bridge We Build Daily
Some days, building that bridge between who I am now and who I’m becoming feels impossible. The gap seems too wide, the journey too long. That’s when I remember that faith isn’t about the size of my steps—it’s about the direction I’m walking.
She sets boundaries. I’m still working on this one, but I’ve started with small steps, like making sure I’m in bed by 10:15 p.m. daily or saying, “I need to think or pray about that” when someone wants an immediate yes to a big request. Each boundary I set is me acting like someone who believes she’s worth protecting. It’s me trusting that God’s plans for my life are worth making space for.
She speaks with confidence. I mess this up sometimes, but I keep speaking up. Even when my voice quivers, I’m practicing using it. Every time I share a contradictory opinion in a group or tell someone how I really feel, I’m becoming her.
She makes wise financial decisions. I don’t always get it right, but I’m learning to pause and ask God for wisdom before I spend or commit. I’m starting to handle money like someone who believes she’s called to steward resources well.
She prioritizes her relationship with God. This one I have to choose fresh every morning. This is deliberate, quiet time with the Lord. I know I need that time with God desperately. It sets the tone for my day.
The woman you’re becoming isn’t waiting for you to get perfect. She’s waiting for you to get started. And if you’ve already started, she’s waiting for you to keep going, especially on the days when it feels hard.
Why We Need This Daily Reminder
At 50-plus, we know life doesn’t always go according to plan. We’ve buried dreams, survived disappointments, and learned that some promises take longer than we thought they would. But here’s what I’m still learning: sometimes what we hoped for isn’t in God’s plan for our lives at all. And that requires a different kind of faith.
I’ve had to learn to trust God even when His “no” becomes clear, even when the door I was sure He wanted me to walk through stays firmly shut. This is perhaps the hardest part of faith—believing that God has something better in mind when we can’t see what that “better” could possibly be.
Maybe that’s exactly why we need faith more now, not less. We’ve lived long enough to see some of our dreams redirected, and we’ve also lived long enough to sometimes glimpse why. We’ve seen how God’s detours led to destinations we never would have chosen but couldn’t imagine living without.
We need God desperately because we know we can’t do this life on our own strength—we’ve tried that. Faith isn’t about having all the answers or getting all the outcomes we want—it’s about trusting the One who sees the whole picture when we can only see today’s puzzle piece.
Every morning, I have to choose again. Will I agree with what I see, or will I agree with what God has spoken? Will I wait until I feel ready, or will I take the next step as the woman He’s calling me to be?
The journey of faith doesn’t require perfection—it requires showing up. And that showing up happens one day, one decision, one declaration at a time.
What would change in your life if you stopped waiting and started walking in faith today, even if you stumbled along the way? What boundaries would you set? What dreams would you dust off? What words would you speak over your life? The woman you are becoming is already you. She’s just waiting for you to believe it enough to live like it’s true. Remember, life is a faith journey. Walk boldly.
🌟 🌟 I would love to hear from you—what’s one way you’re choosing to step into faith today, even if it feels scary? Share in the comments, or better yet, take this as a journal prompt. Write about it, pray about it, and ask God for the wisdom and courage to take that next faithful step. We’re all figuring this out together, one faithful step at a time.
